Summer of Growth and Acceptance - Part 2

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H just left and not sure much was accomplished other than I suppose we agreed to try and D amicably. There is no way to have a rational conversation with him. I have come to the realization that my M is not salvageable. I think our M is too far gone for him and he has no desire to try and reconcile as he absolutely unwilling to try or see anyway past our issues. He is 100% unable to look at himself either. Based on how he was tonight, I not feeling much desire to save our marriage anymore. I don't recognize the person that was in front of me. He has absolutely zero empathy, remorse or compassion. Here are some things that were said...

1. He is not willing to move out of house on principle and proceeded to move all of his things back into the room. Because I moved his things out it meant I want to D.
2. He sees nothing wrong with having OW in our home since our M was in paper only and he owns half the house. He was completely unapologetic about this. He does not care how this makes me feel.
3. That I needed to change for our M and not for myself. I am being selfish to want to change for me.
4. That I did not try hard enough to save our M.
5. That him having A does not affect his view of our M.
6. He doesn't think it is important to file for D, but he wants to start seeing if we can split everything up on our own. He does not want to work with Ls.
7. If I get L, he threatened to rake me over the coals and will try and take 50% of my retirement.


Part of me wants to just go file and get it over with. I think that is what he is hoping I will do. He just seems so full of hate towards me.