I hope that you get to the point where she is ready to work on your M and you can tell her all this. I'd hold off for now, as she is just making some moves back into contact with you, but I suspect that moment will come. There are so many of those kinds of talks I want to have w/ my W when/if the time comes.
You can also write it down in a letter (hand written on nice stationary) and store it away for a later time if you think you would struggle to get what you want across in person.
We learn a lot about ourselves, both our mistakes and weaknesses, and the way we really want to be, out of all this.
Me: 50 W:43 S6, S3 M: 12 yrs. T: 17 M is bad & Not happy Bomb Mar '14 S 5 Feb '15 D Bomb 13 Apr '15 (but "no hurry") DB Coach May '15 Wants proceed on D Aug '15 Starting 1-on-1 negotiations Sept '15