Wife says "NO" and acting like I have no rights

[asitis]

You'll have to go back and read through some of the beginning of the first thread, but there is a brief summary on the first page of my current thread.

Actually, for me the biggest changes are emotional & spiritual. I meditate daily & go on intense meditation retreats almost monthly. After a while you just settle down. It takes a while (many, many months), but you start to see some changes within a month. Doesn't mean I can't get triggered, but it is much less, and I recover much faster and usually am able to learn something about why I was triggered which helps.

Part of the practice is learning to just see the mind as a chattering thing that isn't really me. It is part of me, but It isn't all of me, and I can see that when I get to that silent space (there's still noise, but not from my mind).

Meditation, once you get the hang of it & let some emotional space to develop, allows you to lean gently into some of the more powerful and painful feelings as well. This makes them less powerful, but also give you insights into what your beliefs about how the world should work and how you react when those core beliefs are violated by someone or events.

It also gives you a lot of insights which become material to discuss in IC.

Hope that helps Mr. Bond.