haunted, It's a one step forward, two step backwards scenario and it happens to all of us in the beginning. Mourning takes as long as it takes and each person deals w/mourning in different ways. It takes a lot of time and you can't expect to over everything within a couple of weeks. Seeing your h set you back and it's normal.
Are you seeing a counselor or in a support group? If the answer is no, then it's time to think about joining a support group in your area. Check around at your local church or look for parents w/o partners, divorce support groups, etc. You need to have a "live" support group to lean on when things really get you down and you can call someone or meet up w/a live person and talk things out. This forum is great, but you do need real people to lean on as well.
Cry, vent, beat the stuff out of a pillow, but you have to work through those emotions in order to get to the other side.
I see a counselor every week. It's mostly the nights were i get down the most. I figured that was what set me back. Plus he is flaunting another little affair all over facebook where my family can see it. He's talking about how much he loves this girl and wants to marry her when he gets a divorce from me. Do MLC people really go to that extreme and talk like that? I've been reading up but I am still not sure if he is even going through a MLC. He didn't do the splurging or changing his appearance before he left. He has some signs of it though.
I've told my family no more sharing this info with me because it just hurts me even more.
