WAH, in the thick of divorce

[ep0215]

If Sunny view holds good and she knows her stuff.V

Thanks, V. But actually, I've been thinking about this. I think you are on the right track expressing how you feel about this, with the exception of adding in the "fault" of it. That's not part of this. However, Ep, I'm going to challenge you on the why you feel this way. Do you really think it's not in the best interest of D4 to switch off, or do you just think it's not fair he has to because of H's actions?

[color:#3366FF][/color]Thank you Sunny, I accept your challenge. I have been thinking about this a lot since he left in May and have talked to my IC about this in length. The way his schedule is laid out, yes, I believe it is not in S4's best interest to switch off every other day one week and then 4 nights in a row another. I wish our schedules would allow for a more routine sharing schedule but with his work it just can't be every other weekend sort of thing.

The schedule how he wants it would go like this:

M: Mom take S to school and pick-up at 5:30, Dad pick-up S from home after work at 7:30 pm. Take him home to go to bed.
T: Dad take S to school and pick-up at 12:00, stays with Dad overnight
[b]W:: Dad take S to school and Mom pick-up at 5:30 pm, Mom overnight (every other week he would pick him up 7:30 pm from me and stay overnight)
TH: Mom take S to school, Dad pick-up at 12:00, stays overnight
F: Dad take S to school, Mom pick up and have the weekend with him

There are way too many transitions back and forth during the actual week for his age. He really is having a hard time knowing if he is coming or going. Always asking me "where am I going?" My IC has a lot of training in counseling young children and agrees that at 4 years old he is too young for the bouncing back and forth.

It really isn't about getting back at him. I am writing up options to allow for Monday and Tuesday night overnight and then the rest of the week overnight with me but he would still get to spend almost everyday day time with his father. I do want him to have quality time and a quality relationship with his father. In my head, just picking him up at 7:30 pm to go home and go to bed after he has been with his Mommy for 2 hours just doesn't make any sense.

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