Vanilla answer Sandi - that makes sense to me now. I did not understand why it was important. I don't know if you caught it, but I did tell her last night that if she is unhappy, she should be the one to leave. I told her I was happy with my wife, life, home, and kids. Everything under my roof is why I wake up and go to work. I love my family. I told her if she is unhappy, leave and go find happiness. I then asked her what it is she is looking for, what is missing. She kept saying she couldn't pinpoint it. She did not like it when I said she should be the one to leave if we are to separate. I will shield my kids from this as much as I can. I do not want them or expect them to carry this burden. I am more than capable and willing to run the household as she figures out what she wants. I think although the conversation was heated (I brought all the heat), it did make her think of what she stands to lose. I did make her think of the effect it will have on the kids and daily life. She cried when I told her to leave. It was her first display of emotion. Today, I did not come home until I new she was about gone. She texted me and asked me if I would be home in time to take s:8 to football. I did not reply. Just came home as she was leaving. She initiated talk. I was going to just go inside and get S ready. She said I texted you. I said sorry I just now got the text. I was talking and just got off the phone. I was not rude in my tone. I just let her know i was busy (I was talking to my mom venting, but did not share that info).
