"ended up in me withdrawing and being quiet once every 1.5 to 2 years."
This sounds like you're leaving something out. I don't know any couple that has that few disagreements.
"It was a simple misunderstanding that resulted in me saying to her " an example of how I am a low priority" she lost it on me in front of the kids and unleashed some obvious pent up frustration."
What do you mean by a "simple" misunderstanding. It obviously wasn't simple to her.
"It was mostly around helping around the house, doing more with her, communicating better."
Can you elaborate? What specifically were you told to work on?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.