Why is it so imperative that I don't leave? Why is it important for me to stay in the master bedroom? I don't understand the significance.
I gave my point of view about it in the WW threads. (Have you read them?). WW's have a sense of entitlement, and when it comes to comfort, finances, the bedroom, the house, car, etc., she wants the best and expects the man to take the less attractive option. As long as you act as if you are the guilty party, she will not respect you as a man, or the head of the home. You are in the role of leader, protector, provider, husband, and father. You are the one who is trying to save the M. That is what your children, and wife, needs to see set before them. Do not demote your position by moving out of the marital bedroom and/or home.
I know I say a lot about respect, but a woman cannot have warm, sexual, loving feelings toward a H she doesn't respect. That's just the way we are made!
Please do not think that giving over to her in these things will impress her feelings for you. It will work against you. The hardest job for her is getting the H to move out. Once she gets him out of the house, she feels she has won and wastes no time in moving OM in to take his place.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
