I think (for a number of reasons in particular the first chapter) you would get a great deal from the Jeanne book on forgiveness. If I had the way to do it I would gift it to you.
There is an NLP technique which could help you with the visual aspects of your WH face. Ironically it's called reframing, it's very potent so be careful. there was a TV program with Paul McKenna It is on Utube I can change your life program 1, there is a woman who has obsessive thoughts about her ex. I am slightly disbelieving of it, well very, but it's fascinating stuff.
Asitis, love your posts
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Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW