Wife says "NO" and acting like I have no rights

[asitis]

My W has said the same thing. Most of us have heard some version of this, including the ones who have or are attempting to patch things up.

Just par for the course. DBing is partly for getting you in a better place if she doesn't change her mind. It is partly to give her space & time, stop making things worse (doing the things that make her not feel emotionally bonded), and start doing some things that attract her attention back to the new you that she might reconsider working with.

Just stay w/ the program, as while it hurts to hear, it is not anything that isn't expected as part of the process.

Still, think about what you have done to contribute to the emotional disconnect. She is telling you one of her big problems, and it deserves some attention.

As you're probably getting sick of hearing: detach and focus on GAL. It hurts & that makes it hard to think of these things, but this is where the hard work gets done that makes the most difference in the long run.