She wants to keep the house. I have heard horror stories about guys who just get raked over the coals when it comes to this. she cant afford the house unless she is planning to hit me up for that too. can they take everything?
Most attorneys will give you about an hour for free on a first consultation. That's enough time to give them your basic info and get a feel for how the process works. I would recommend going to at least 2-3 different ones and see who you feel most comfortable with. Don't forget to ask about billable rate - it can vary substantially. Also get advice on anything you should be doing now to protect yourself, your kids, and your assets. Make sure you don't tell your W about any of it.
I've also heard of men who get totally taken in a D. That's why you need to take action now to start protecting yourself. If you're well prepared, you should do just fine. The courts tend to be fair and divide everything pretty much down the middle, but you need to be careful. Don't do anything that would help her case against you, especially in terms of child custody. I suggest you come up with specific questions beforehand that you can ask when you meet with an attorney. Focus on the big issues, such as children, spousal support, living arrangements.
Me 47 W 42 T 24 yrs M 18 yrs W living with OM BD1: 3/7/2015 (A with OM#1) BD2: 4/11/2015 (A with OM#2, W moves out) WW filed for D, papers received 9/18/2015. Meeting to determine child custody 9/29/2015.
