Dealing with this stuff can be very frustrating. There are little moments here and there where the WAS can sense us pulling away so they drop a line or two like you described just to keep us where they left us. Read enough and you notice when we move this really bugs em to no end. She might have just been temp checking ... maybe she actually meant those words but knows she needs to 'do this' in order to figure things and herself out.
I 'dropped rope' a couple times in my sitch ... did my thing and was not paying attention and realized somehow that rope ended up in my hands again ... might have been something she did, my fear of really letting go, just the fact I held it for 24 years .. its a tough thing to do ... alot like detaching , I never really am sure I did it 100% .... I will say about this time last year I was at 90% though.
I would just say ... do not do it to get a reaction, do it for you .... if you need a break, go do your thing .... I suspect like me .. nothing you are doing now will really change regardless if you are holding onto that rope or not .... use this to detach a bit more, worry about yourself for a bit and let her figure her stuff out..... watch out for the tests because I would bet they are coming
