Looks like your response was perfect.

Center of calm, loving rock, lighthouse whenever you do talk with him. Remember being overexcited if he hints at anything will repel...

Also, be prepared that serious may not be what you hope for.

Good luck!!

Mid 30's
Psych-abusive M with violent tantrums from XH
D 9/15; NC forever on

You can't DR your way out of abuse.