Hi Cali- I understand your confusion on the hairpin emotional turn W has made.

When I woke up from my own depression, I snapped back to wanting things to the way they were (after treating my H very poorly for 3 years!).

Remember, she stop may not recall a lot of what she said/did to you. I certainly did not. A few months ago I remembered that years ago I took down my wedding picture. I still don't remember why I even did that. H asked me to put it back when he noticed it vanished. But I hid it so well, that it took me a week to find it! Found it when I woke up.

It may not all feel genuine; my H distanced because it was too overwhelming a turnaround. For me, though, it was real. I woke up! But, I woke up to wanting to be with him and not to all I had done to him.

Regarding the A, one of the things my awesome DB coach told me is that there is nothing like making love to the person you are bonded to through marriage and/or children. You have something with her that no one else can have, ever.


Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced