Zelda - Baby One More Time

[asitis]

V, as usual, makes some good points.

I'd add in cases of abuse, it is often enough just to work on forgiving yourself. All that self-criticism and feeling guilty for "allowing" the abuse, not loving yourself, etc. Until you feel you've been able to do that, you won't be able to truly forgive the abuser I suspect. If forgiveness for him comes as part of your process of working through your own issues, then it was the right thing at the right time. If not, it's not the right thing at that time or even the right thing for you. Not really something you try - esp. early on - but something that seems to be necessary at some point in the process (or not).

I also want to add that I'm really pleased to see the markedly better place you are in. Even when you are struggling with these kinds of things, you are in a much healthier place than a few weeks ago. You may not always feel like it, but you are doing great.