Good for you 4, just keep living your life as though he is no longer in it just now. Doing your own stuff with the kids, working on your own stuff (CD book etc) and moving forward.

All sounds good and will take much time, but slow and steady moving forward...you're doing really well xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus