My discontent at present has nothing to do with being single--as I said I'm happy and single (and I have a lot of fun in my life with friends, family, and by myself) but has to do with regretting all the time and effort put into a relationship with someone like my XH. I kind of feel like an idiot. I guess I wish I had been smarter or more perceptive. You are right--some of his changes are fueled by the fiancé and her lifestyle, while some of the changes aren't changes so much as parts of him I saw small glimpses of (the narcissism) that have only flourished full force in the context of his rel. with another equally narcissistic person.
I think Bea said it's so weird how you end up feeling sorry for the person the MLCer becomes, but I also feel sorry that I couldn't have made better choices, but I guess I wouldn't where I am now, and I'm happy with who I am now, if I hadn't :-)
M45 Bomb 6/09; EA 6/10; Divorced 1/11 Proud single mom of 7 little feline girls and one little feline boy "Fall down 53 times. Get up 54." -- Zen saying
