Need advice for a WW who left Part 3

[dwh15]

Thank you for the thought out reply above AnothStand. Agree with everything you said. My point on the gay boyfriend thing was that right now, WW is all for it. And I realized I'm too attached for it to work. I was doing it in the hopes that it would bring us closer. And I do think it some ways it did, since we were talking more open and honest than we had in years. But she wanted to confide everything, including her troubles with OM, and I just couldn't take it. Plus, I realized she was using me to some extent to get favors and money. Think I need at least another few months of detachment before I can even try to tackle the "friends" approach. I do believe that WW and I will eventually get there, but for me, it will have to be after most of my romantic feelings are gone, and all the dust has settled on financial arrangements.

Based on history, my guess is that things are going to start to crumble with current OM within 18 months. I don't say that in hopes that it means she runs back to me, but it's a good general time frame of when I think my feelings will finally be in check, and she may be more level headed, rather than butterflies in the stomach over OM. Of course, I seem to change my mind every other day so who knows by then.

Quick update on latest events. My S15 has a birthday coming up this week so WW sent me a TM asking if I had plans for him. We exchanged a few TMs and came to an agreement that I would be taking him to lunch that day, and she would take him to dinner. She will also make a cake & ice cream and they will celebrate with my other kids that night. I agreed to chip in $15 towards the cost of his meal, and the cake supplies. She is really hurting for money, so I figured it sounded fair. I want S15 to spend time with mom that day, and the money was my idea - she didn't ask. It bums me out that we can't all celebrate as a complete family but need to get used to things working this way.