...sad next year we were going to plan for kids now at 35 I may never have children what a life , abandoned and thrown to the side like a piece of garbage
My dad had my half-brother when he was 61, believe me you are still plenty young enough to start a family whether it's with your W or someone else As for being thrown out like a piece of garbage, I think we all feel like that at some point. But try to understand, your W is suffering badly right now. She may seem calm and collected, but inside her a storm of confusion is boiling. She feels bad about what she's done but RIGHT NOW she feels like it's the best course of action. She may very well change her mind later. If you love her like I think you do then try and be sympathetic to what she's going through. She doesn't want to hurt you.
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Family and friends keep telling me to move on and forget about her, I'm trying
Why? Have you read DR? Do you remember the part where Michele says friends and family say that because they think it'll stop your pain, but it's the WRONG thing for them to say and it will NOT stop your pain? Decide for yourself whether you want to stand or not, and if you stand then tell your friends and family that the BEST thing they can do is SUPPORT you and trust your decision.
what a life , abandoned and thrown to the side like a piece of garbage 
As for being thrown out like a piece of garbage, I think we all feel like that at some point. But try to understand, your W is suffering badly right now. She may seem calm and collected, but inside her a storm of confusion is boiling. She feels bad about what she's done but RIGHT NOW she feels like it's the best course of action. She may very well change her mind later. If you love her like I think you do then try and be sympathetic to what she's going through. She doesn't want to hurt you.