Hi Cat, thanks for your patient replies & hanging with me. It was actually a pretty good weekend overall. No serious talking, but good lighthearted connections (and some physical...).
Still struggling with depression though, of course and it showed briefly.

Yes, regarding intel - I do have some connections which try to keep me in the loop but it's rare that I hear from them either. Mainly just if there has been contact. He's never made any promises of no contact, admitted much of anything. Seems like that's not something I can broach...
Keep the bombardment up - I need all the help and clarity I can get.
I've looked through some of the previous of the Surrendered Wife. Gotta get the book (also reading some other books at the moment). One is "Saying it so he'll listen" - it's about communication. Communicating respect, and in a way men can receive it. H recommended working on communication skills and I know it's an area where I need work (don't we all?), so it was something that I chose to do too.


Me: 42, H: 38
Married: 12 years (second M for me)
14D, 9D
2015 EA (PA??), porn addict, *pastor/counselor* MLC

At a counselor, he said he wanted the marriage but not to work on himself w/a IC. Piecing?