Thank you, Sandi, for helping me see her point of view. I needed that. She is hurting and I am focused on my pain and on my kids' pain. I am trying to protect them. Both of us had divorced parents. We always promised each other we would not put our kids through this. She was so angry at my brother and best friends wives when they left H's "to be happy". Now, she is repeating their narrative. They both had affairs, which makes me all the more suspicious of potential OM. Why is it so imperative that I don't leave? Why is it important for me to stay in the master bedroom? I don't understand the significance.
