Difrent's Detachment - Attempts at It, Anyway

[DifRent]

Wonka, that's classic! I'll do my best to keep that one in mind next time she brings it up.

I decided to come home and whew, she's not here. But as soon as I got settled, guess who called? I didn't answer for the same reasons I left for the cafe in the first place. Her message was along the lines of, "sorry I was on the phone while you were at the house, this is a difficult transaction, I didn't know you left, so I wanted to make sure that you know I was there and wanted to say hi and talk and catch up, anyways, give me a call and we can talk."

I don't want to overthink this - don't want to think about it at all, really. But it's rude if I don't respond, and also out of character game playing stuff. If I do respond, I feel like I'm feeding her cake and giving her just enough of that contact she wants from me, for whatever temp checking reason her MLC mind has.

Should I start to think about going dark? We're in such a strange limbo - she's half moved her stuff out and 90% moved herself out. I'm still here, but it's still her house and she comes by several times a week to work, whether I'm here or not. One toe still in the door. Until I'm firmly in a place she won't ever set foot, I have to figure out how to navigate this in a way that helps my PMA and lets her deal 100% with the consequences of her decisions while feeling the loss of whatever it is she still wants from me.

I'm just not sure how to do this. I'd really like the next moves to be the right ones.