We communicated better today. I told her my need for respectful compassionate communication is not being met by her hurtful comments, she apologised, and expressed that it bothers her when I share my plans for leaving for longer periods as a way of upsetting her. I said I'll do my best to avoid that, and she admitted she's still angry and hurt by things in our past and that this causes her to lash out at times.
Noticing the tendency to want to initiate more communication after one has occurred. Avoiding this.
She also said I should also share my plans with her if it has something to do 'with our life together' which I find to be a curious use of words from a woman who said she doesn't want us to have a life together. This is business, not 'our life together'.
Also noticing that more space and lack of communication facilitates my healing. Going away for those 12 days day after tomorrow and looking much forward to it.
Me: 29, wife: 29 Been together 6 years. Married June 13 (2years) Separation: 22/6/15 W stopped wearing wedding ring 30/6/15
