Summer of Growth and Acceptance - Part 2

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Ok, here is plan. If he pushes back about moving out, here is what I plan to say:

I love you, but by having an A and bringing it into our home, you have crossed the line and you have made a decision on our M. I am not willing to live in an open M and I will not be stuck in limbo as your plan B.

If you want to stay in our marital home then you have to commit to ending A, sending no contact letter to OW, be transparent, and go to MC. I am willing to give 100% to doing what it takes to repair our M.

If you chose to those conditions, then you are making decision to walk away from our M, so you should go ahead and leave now. I am not the one walking away, I refuse to be the one to leave, and I am not living with you A any longer.

If he starts to lie or be disrespectful, I plan to put up my hand and tell him to stop that we both know he is lying. If he wants to have a conversation, then he needs to start being truthful and respectful.

Thoughts?

If he refuses to move out, I guess I let him stay and go as dark as possible and file? I am not going to tell him what I know other than he is having A and with whom. I am not providing details. I am not sure if I am doing what is right by DB, but I don't think it is healthy to stay in M with active A in my home. I think it is psychologically damaging to be in this position for more than 4-6 months and studies seems to back this up. I am at 4 months right now.