When I was learning to drive I spent a lot of time learning on the local roads, 40 mph or less. Eventually I drove well enough that my mom took me out on the highway. When I got on the highway I struggled. I was course correcting every second, looking down the hood at the road and trying to stay in the center. When I learned to look further on up the road and point the car there I became a better driver.
tdkmme, you have to change how your dealing with this situation. Stop daily talks about "us". Work on yourself and love those kids. Your kids are the glue holding your wife there. My wife said if it wasn't for them she would have been long gone. Love your children each and every day. Show them the man YOU want to be, the man that you are. Show them every day you are the one with your "stuff" together. The love you and your children share could create the extra gravity needed to pull you wife into orbit instead of her drifting away. If I am completely wrong you kids still have a great few years they will never forget.
Get your eyes off the hood, look up, pick your spot and drive the fricking car. If you do you may find your wife and kids are in the car with you.
