V, thank you for this post. It makes much more sense to my heart. Trying to see the abnormal as normal or justified or forgive-able has kept me questioning myself and stuck here. It's one of the reasons I wanted our thread on abuse. Trying to hold to core foundations. My experience must be validated before his. Abuse is abuse, and I will not be abused. I didn't cause it and I can't change it. I gave him the opportunity to address it three times and he declined. Therefore I must be grateful for a simple divorce, granted in two weeks.
Mid 30's Psych-abusive M with violent tantrums from XH D 9/15; NC forever on
