Eric - Based on your last post that can up just at the same time as mine, I want to give some more thoughts.
The one thing I didn't realize with this process is that while we all come here thinking that our spouses have shut us out kinda light flipping a light switch off, it isn't really like that. They've been on an emotional dimmer switch for years and we just looked up and noticed how dark it is. With that said, you can't just "turn the lights back on". It will take tons of time and effort to get the lights back up - typically months or years. It took 18 years to get to this point - you aren't going to turn it around in an 18 minute conversation.
So breathe. Try to relax a little. Then it's time to roll up your sleeves and get to work.
