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Thank you V.
I do see the her already not being able to keep up the supermom act - it is fading. I have been trying to watch from a distance without comment.

You called it though, she has switched to trying to villainize me to the kids (which I really don't think they are going for).

I feel she thinks the pet names are affectionate - I have never really been a pet name person - maybe she had done that when they were little, but now it is almost amusing and in my sarcastic mind I want to start using some comically bad pet names with the kids - but I do not want to throw them in the middle of it any more than they already are.

thanks for all of your support V.

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fortunately or unfortunately (you make the call) I inadvertently ran into some intel this weekend. When I was looking for some paper, I found a partially written letter to OM saying basically she no longer has feelings for him only hate and resentment.

The way it is written, it seems as though he is still pursuing him and she doesn't want it any more.

I don't know what the purpose of this letter was, it was written somewhere between three weeks ago and yesterday.

What does this mean to me? Not too much. It doesn't really change anything at this point.

It wasn't sent; it could have been planted for me to see (why would this be left out?); if it is real, it still means that OM is still a thing that she is still lying about. If it is a potential release of OM, it doesn't mean she wants to put things back together with me.

I though it was interesting though. but I'm not changing my current chosen path.

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I have a question for anyone that would want to comment: My parents are having a dinner for their 50th aniv. and have invited me and the kids, they know about our troubles and did not invite WW. I think they are trying to spare my feelings. I talked to them a little today and asked if they didn't want her there or if they are leaving it up to me. My mom said she could be civil if she came, but I'm not sure my dad can be nice.

I'm not sure if I should ask WW if she wants to go or not. Maybe she wouldn't even want to go as every one there knows about us. At first I thought that I don't want her there, but later was thinking that they have been her MIL/FIL for 21 years. I can be civil during this, but it may be uncomfortable. The kids would probably like us all to be there - though this is not going to happen any more.

If she did go, I would hope to direct all attention to the guests of honor and ignore everything else that day, but cannot guarantee everyone else will be on board with that.

I would probably be more comfortable if she wasn't there.

She likely will not have been served yet before the dinner.

Any thoughts about this?

Thanks for everyone's support