Summer of Growth and Acceptance - Part 2

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Just wanted to post some GAL, as that is what I have been primarily doing this weekend. I actually have not been thinking about H a whole lot other than the packing up of his room. Even last week when I was away I was present there and not focused on what was back at home. Yesterday, I ran in 5k. Was really fun time other than being super hot. This evening, I went to a friend's house to learn about investing.

On the docket for this next week is a meetup and a Friday evening on the town. I also finally feel like I am ready to get refocused on work. I have definitely have not been 100% and need to get back in gear.

Right now, I am feeling slighty rattled by H's attitude, which I am sure is what he wants. Mostly, because I hate confrontations and that is what tomorrow will be. I just need to take the high road, stay calm, and validate. I do not want to argue about it. What I need help on his expressing why I feel justified in asking him to move out and packing up his things with out it sounding angry or hostile. The main reason is I am not living in an open marriage and he is in active A. Do I just restate this? Suggestions?

So, I was trying to figure out why he is angry. I think there are two things going on. One, he is upset that his secret A/OW has been brought to light. I am sure she is not happy either and that adds pressure to what has been a fantasy. Plus, they are probably stressing if I will say something. Two, he is feels he is losing control. I am just not sure where he gets off being angry. I guess in his mind he is not doing anything wrong having A in our home because in his mind we aren't M.