Need advice for a WW who left Part 3

[dwh15]

Another hard day of outdoor work, but at least my sisters yard is looking pretty good. Found out from S18 that WW had filled out an employment application, but for whatever reason didn't want me to know. WTF? No idea why she wouldn't want me to know about that. I've been pushing her for years to get a good job, something full time. I would be thrilled to hear it. Who knows what kind of logic makes sense to a wayward though. Guess that's the kind of games we're playing with each other now. I'm not telling her about my recent offer either, at least not until the last minute. Probably wouldn't mention it at all, except for the fact of the kids being home alone for a couple of hours after school each day. I know that as soon as she hears, it's gonna be a big push on when to expect financial help again, and she's NOT getting any. She has assumed that the unemployment was the only reason up to this point. It's not a conversation I'm looking forward to, but I'm not worried about it either. Sure, she'll be angry, but I guess what's new. Any time something doesn't go her way, she goes nuts. Pretty used to it by now.

Was talking with my sis a little more about WW, and she is still 100% convinced that there is a substance abuse issue. Remember, that is what sis does - substance abuse counselor for women. She says the behavior mimics a lot of her patients to the tee. The lies and deceptions, party life style, etc. It all fits. I have no idea, but anything is possible. Also starting to wonder if a typical WW just looks very similar to someone with substance abuse issues. Regardless, my sis still says that nothing is going to change with her behavior until she hits rock bottom, most likely meaning trouble with the law, or major health problems. She agrees that the change in personality has been going on for way too long to be a simple case of rushed judgement. The person she is now is just who she is, and who she will continue to be, without major consequences.

I go back and forth every day lately about how long I need to hold out before filing. I had initially set a deadline of next April but I don't know if I can wait that long. Right now, think I'm leaning more towards late January, and see if there are any indications of regret or change. That will get us through our first major holiday season apart, and give a taste of what life is going to be like from now on at that time of year. After filing, it's still another 6 months before everything is final, which would put me at around 15 months separated. I think that if there isn't some sort of sign by then, I will have given up hope. I feel like I'm still fairly young, and while I'm not in a huge rush to run out and find another woman, I just can't imagine going like this for 2 or 3 years and not even dating. Guess I've got plenty of time to decide though.