The World is A-changin'

[PigPen]

HI Elly,

First off, thank you for all of the support you've been lending me. It is of great help and on my toughest days I do find solace in your comments. I hope our dogs get to meet some day.

I'm sorry you H is confusing. Making you your favorite dinner is loving and caring. Having the OW come by is not a dessert to follow up with though. Kind a douchy thing to do in IMHO.

I think on a very real level, our spouses love us. They do. They also love the life they're living. Your H wants to be with OW, my W wants and wanted for some time, this new life she's living. She told me tonight that part of the reason she left was because she just couldn't get work here in our town (very true), but it was being thrown at her in the town she now lives. I agreed. What I didn't say was that that is a total crap reason to walk out on your M. Or even to consider as a contributing factor in walking out on your M. How about we move and stay married? Gosh, who could even think of such a thing.

Until I hear otherwise, I'll assume that your H made you that dinner because part of him still very much loves you. 17 years of marriage is a long time. That's more history than my brain can fathom right now. When I read about sitch's with that much time, it honestly makes my head spin a bit. That's so many Xmas's, so many birthdays. How do you walk away from that?

And what kind of woman gets involved with a man that's been married for that long? Call me old school, and yea, I wasn't husband of the year, but I know boundaries.

I'm sorry you had an up and down weekend E. However, at least there was an up. I'm focusing on the same thing. I got to spend the weekend with my pup. As much as it hurts that she's gone again, I got to talk to my W on back to back days. In person. I got four hugs from her. One that she had to hold her breath for.

I've still got a few big ones left in me and I'm sending them your way. I hope dinner was delicious and if there are any leftovers that maybe OW chokes on them a bit.

Namaste.

PP