H and I were taking son and his gf out for dinner tonight as it is both their birthdays. H suggested this yesterday actually.Typically that would be my place but he actually beat me to it. I was pleased with this. I dont tell him that.
So the kids end up cancelling tonight and ask to do it tomorrow instead because something came up and delayed their arriving etc. By this time im dressed, nicely I might add.. and ready to go when H calls me.
Would I like to meet for dinner? Would I ever. Im nonchalant and say sure. We meet , we have a nice dinner,some wine and I offer to split the tab. Nope hes got it. Huh? im thinking?
This is the first solo dinner together in 2 mo. It was fun , not serious and not too awkward which I was concerned about. He only looked at phone once quickly and didnt play any games... this is a change as ive noticed previously as he is more engaged and not immersed in his phone.
He walks me to my car we chat a little and decide that maybe we could talk tomorrow nite instead of tonight. As you recall yesterday I said I had decided to quit " coffee" cold turkey and he wanted to talk about it...
I feel very good about tonight and I could hear a little voice inside me saying "leave him wanting more"... we said good night said we'll see you tomorrow and went our seperate ways. Im proud that I didnt offer him dessert.. proud er that I was fun and didnt try to talk during dinner and even prouder that I havent sent a follow up txt saying thank you to him again.
Changes that ive noticed
He initiated the first txt today and has been periodically since last week. He has asked to talk about my decision.. talking is always initiated by me. H is more engaged and respectful not to be on phone when im around.
I am still hopeful..
Married 1991 D 32 GD 12 D 30 GD 3 S 29 M 58 S 57 1st bomb 2008 2nd bomb 4/2015 same person New bomb 09/24 I fear those big words which make us so unhappy.
