I saw her for the first time in 4.5 months yesterday. Only because we still share a dog...it took me 5 weeks of emailing once a week to get to see him. Other than that, she never reached out to me. None. Nothing. Not once.
When I asked to see the dog the last time, she told me she wanted a divorce. But she literally spent a total of an hour in my house this weekend sharing her story, her pain, her new life, that she loved me, that she loved her new life, you name it. She was the woman I love, and am in love with. She just needs space and may be needs space from me forever. Who knows. She probably doesn't. I sure as (censored) don't.
Just because she's not contacting you doesn't mean she's not thinking about you. Mine had rules - any form of contact makes PP think we're getting back together. And she was right. I taught her that pre DB. If she sent me a text, I sent her 20. If she sent me a 1 line email, I wrote a dissertation as a reply.
Now I keep it simple too. She left an hour ago and I want nothing more than to call, text, reach out in some way just to keep that connection alive. But I'm not going to. Because I know what it will do - seem like pursuit. And it is.
Be strong. This whole process is awful, but it will teach you more about yourself, communication, relationships, and again YOURSELF than you ever could imagine and what you learn is worth the price of the pain, you just can't see it yet.
I've changed my whole life since she left, but it wasn't until I found this forum that I realized why and how to make it last.
Trust the process, even when you don't.
PP
Last edited by PigPen; 08/17/1512:01 AM.
M 39 W 36 T5 M3 BD - 1/15 Separated - Same Day Served 9/15 D finalized 6/17
