PP's New Adventure (5) - Filing & Moving Forward

[PigPen]

Just had my W stop by to pick up Woofie and chat with me for a bit. It might not be DB'ing but I thought about it all night and told her that I wanted to address the "trust issue" in the conversation yesterday.

So I told her I was reading Nonviolent Communication and that I had missed an opportunity the day before by replying that I did trust her when she said I didn't. She agreed and told me that when I laughed at her she felt like I didn't see her, or hear her, and completely negated her feelings. I apologized and asked how I can show her that I trust her since I actually do. Her reply was that I should believe her even though what she's saying may not make sense to me.

I tried to validate that by saying that I understood that what she had told me was how she felt and therefor it was real to her. (I didn't add again that it seemed convoluted to me that I may be denied access to my dog due to his "spiritual needs". He eats poop btw, that's how freakin spiritual he is. HE EATS POOP.)

Curious if anyone has a thought on this as she told me numerous times in our M that she wanted to be with someone that would call her on her BS. Where's the balance between honestly saying, "I think your BS'ing us" and negating someone's feelings? I thought I was calling BS yesterday as it truly seemed preposterous to speak of a dog's spiritual needs, but it really did upset her that I laughed.

She told me that she was actually happy with how the conversation went the day before and how it was unlike when we used to have to tackle tough subjects. She then went on to tell me how amazing her new life was, how rich it was with people and social activities. That was painful as I was constantly trying to get her to do things with me and our community when we were M, but she was always too tired or wasn't interested. Nothing I can do but be happy that she's enjoying her life and is doing a better job at GAL'ing than I am.

We had a few moments that I don't think I'm reading into where there was chemistry still, her asking what I was looking at when she was talking - I was just looking into her eyes etc. I don't think she's used to the me clearly and openly just looking into her eyes when she talks.

I gave her a big hug goodbye and felt something was amiss so asked, "Are you holding your breath?" and we both laughed because for some reason she was. Not sure why, but it was a good end note.

I'm taking all of this for what it is - nothing. She's happy in her life and is still planning on D'ing me. She still may have some feelings or attraction but they aren't swaying her from her path. So my path will continue and I'll do my best to make sure that I make the most of the interactions we have moving forward with our holy dog.

PP