Just caught up on your sitch, and like everyone else, I'm very sorry to be meeting you here. Having just read through, I can see that you are finally settling down a bit in the last couple days & that is good. Try to keep that going. Focus on GAL. Look for something new to do that you either used to do but had stopped or something you've always wanted to try or something that just sounds fun. Fill some of that new-found space in your life with some activities just for you.
Your husband went through a number of life events that are almost guaranteed to send even the best of us off into a bad place & a desire to seek out new things in hopes to escape his pain. That's going to take a while. My DB coach reminds me regularly that in her experience, the number one predictor of success in DBing is patience.
I hope that you continue to get some detachment and settle some more. That's the best thing right now for you and your M.
Good luck.
Me: 50 W:43 S6, S3 M: 12 yrs. T: 17 M is bad & Not happy Bomb Mar '14 S 5 Feb '15 D Bomb 13 Apr '15 (but "no hurry") DB Coach May '15 Wants proceed on D Aug '15 Starting 1-on-1 negotiations Sept '15
