H has started an affair

[Sotto]

My big piece of advice would be not to do anything for a 'make him realise' reason. Put your own needs and those of your kids at the heart of this. There may be a realisation at some point of what he's doing. Some WAS's have that relatively soon (but there can be a rocky road after that too). Some have it years down the line. You just don't know, so best to operate with the focus on you and the family.

If you want to S, care of the kids would be an important factor and something you guys would need to discuss. I would guess if he can offer them good care during the day, staying with him is going to be best for them. But that would be something for you both to sort out I guess. What ar OW's circumstances. Is she married or in a R?

I understand about the sleeping and eating. Those things can be tough at the start of your sitch. They will settle down, and the more you can do to look after yourself, and achieve some balance and calm, the sooner that is likely to be.

It also sounds as though there is an opportunity to build up your social life a little too. If you are able to make some GAL plans for yourself - with our without the kids - that would maybe be a good idea too.

Take care Anna xx