Today I am preparing for the collaborative meeting on Tuesday to (fingers crossed) finalize a time-sharing schedule for our son. I really want some input on the thoughts I have written down on how to approach my side of things. I really want to come across as being amicable but also being assertive in doing what is best for S4.

A bit of background: My work schedule is M-F 8:30 am-5:00 pm. H work schedule is complicated, M 10am-7pm, T off, W 10am-7pm, TH off, F-Su 3:00 pm-2:00 am (he only just now got this schedule fixed, before it was all over the place)

I will call the mediator Dr. C

Dr. C,
I want to give you some history into what S4's routine has been like since he was born. We didn't talk about that in the last meeting and I feel it will help you understand why I feel the need to revise the current schedule and for it being in his best interest.

H has always been in the restaurant industry, he works very long hours and very hard at his job. (I feel I should add some validation or something here)
Since S4 was born he has been home with me alone 5 nights a week, it is what he is used to. When he started school at 2 years old, H would take him to school in the morning and not see him again until the following morning. To change the routine now to S4 being away from his Mommy and home 4 nights in a row, twice a month, is disruptive to his life and not in his best interest.
(he changed his work schedule thinking that every other week he would have him Monday night through Thursday night overnight)
I am not comfortable with reversing our roles so that I now become the weekend parent.

It is very important to me that S have a relationship with his father. Which is why I am proposing the schedule I am to give him the most amount of quality time but still being consistent in what he is used to.

S4 did not ask for this. I did not ask for this but while I am accepting it he should not have the fall out from it.

I do not want to disrupt his life for your choice to end this marriage

I think that this will get my point across without being too aggressive. Wonka - I would really appreciate your take.


Me:33 H:36
T:13 years
M:10 years
S4
Separated 05/15
H Filed 06/15