JulieH - I will go and read your sitch today. I am so glad that I am able to help you in anyway. The collaborative process has been so much gentler than litigation and has given me time to process and detach before things got started. The day after I was served the papers I was a wreck and if the process had started right then and not 6 weeks later I know I would have made some very bad decisions for me and for my son. I have that fear too, that if I stick up for myself and stand my ground then I am at the same time losing any chance of reconciliation but you know what the benefit out weighs the risk and that is something I am learning every day.
I think it is a little different for me since H and I have differing work schedules so the time alone and being a single Mom hasn't really changed for me. That feels normal to me. It is the grief of losing my belief in him and my family that brings me despair. I still love him and pray everyday that he has an awakening and we can begin to rebuild what was lost.
Me:33 H:36 T:13 years M:10 years S4 Separated 05/15 H Filed 06/15
