have I been making mistakes too long part3

[tkdmme]

Detach. Ok Maybe I got it this time. The things she wanted me to do during our marraige are no longer valid. That's why detach is so important. That's why none of my efforts to help with the kids and around the house have had any effect on her. That's why she seems happy when I leave her alone.

This is so weird. I'm learning so much. I only wish I could have seen the warning signs and changed while it would have made a difference.

The thought of divorce makes my skin crawl. The thought of only seeing my kids on weekends makes me sick. I love my little family so much and would do anything to make this better. The DR is right. These are easy steps to take but so hard when you throw in emotions. Does everyone have trouble following the rules? Has anyone ever done this flawlessly? If so I need to talk to them right now.