In reality it has been 4 mo of making coffee and seeing him only of which 1+ mo with him being out of the home. I had told him early on that at some point I would prob decide that I no longer would want to continue coffee if he was doing ow. He said hes only seen her 3 times in this time period. 3 is enough for me.
Stopping this would prob be a 180 of the 180 that I had started when he was still at home before I even knew what a 180 was. Stopping coffee with him is for my benefit not to get him to take notice or to make an ultimatimum just simply that I have decided I dont want to be in a 3 ring circus any longer.
Respect for myself my values and a relationship that has more to offer because that is not the only thing from him that I want. I think I need to make a stand on that I guess.
I appreciate you helping me think this through and for wording it for me in a context that is simple. I hadnt thought that I could simply say out of respect for myself and the marriage we had I can no longer have an open marriage. Open marriage.. hadnt occurred to me.
Sometimes im slow as I have stated here before.
Married 1991 D 32 GD 12 D 30 GD 3 S 29 M 58 S 57 1st bomb 2008 2nd bomb 4/2015 same person New bomb 09/24 I fear those big words which make us so unhappy.
