Hi 4, it's good that you were able to receive the information that way. People often talk about some feedback feeling harsh (or having a sting.) That normally means it is something to really look at and think about.

Interesting that you feel it would have ruined your day had your H said it. I think this comes back to the fundamental point we keep revisiting in your sitch - if my H doesn't accept/want me, what am I/I'm nothing. (Actually, he is just one guy in the world who knows you and may hold a particular view, but why need that affect your deep sense of your own self?

And I think it is this mistaken belief that keeps you clinging to a situation that isn't that healthy. Keep reading and thinking about CD. And I think you mentioned a work book at one point, which might be a good idea. Keep on going 4 - I think you're making some progress here.

Take care xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus