V, I'm sure I would have continued living in my own fantasy for as long as WW was still here. I haven't truly been happy for a while if I'm being honest. I knew there were problems with the M, but I just didn't realize how far back and how deep rooted they were. I'm not glad about the things that have happened, but a major change was needed in all our lives, and I'm not sure anything less than this avalanche of grief would have done the trick.

So it's been the worst 5 months of my life, no question. But I feel I've come a long way and things are definitely getting better. Today was overall a good day. My WW took the usual 2 boys (S18 and S8) out for cony dogs, while I did some shopping and ran 2 miles at the Y. After the kids got home, we went to my sisters and I helped her put up a new fence in her yard while the kids swam in her pool. Now I can't say it was a "good" time for me. In fact, it was darn hard work. Not sure if anyone has used a post hole digger before, but let me just say it's exhausting, and we hit a hi of 89 outside today. I was pretty much drenched in my own sweat for hours.

But the great news is that I kept busy on the task, and didn't really think about WW all that often. My mom and step-father were there too, so between the conversation and work, it felt like a pretty normal day. I wasn't depressed and somewhat enjoyed myself. The good mood has continued even after getting home and I plan on going back tomorrow to help finish the job, after church of course. I feel like the past few days have sort of been a turning point for me, and life is starting to turn around. Don't recall if I mentioned it, but I received a job offer Friday around 5pm and will be starting in 2 weeks. As icing on the cake, it's a 20% raise over where I was at before, plus it has flexible start time, so I can work around the kids school schedules. I know I've got a ways to go but really hoping that the worst of the journey is coming to an end.


Me 47 W 42
T 24 yrs M 18 yrs
W living with OM
BD1: 3/7/2015 (A with OM#1)
BD2: 4/11/2015 (A with OM#2, W moves out)
WW filed for D, papers received 9/18/2015.
Meeting to determine child custody 9/29/2015.