fdu, I'm new here and my situation is different then yours but I am here to support you buddy.
I think you must except she's gone. She will either come back or not. Free will, her choice.
In regards to your children you have a stronger hand. I believe she does not have a legal leg to stand on by choosing to move the kids that far and not let you see them.
Although you should pick your battles carefully the snatching of children battle you will win. It may "sober her up" and make her realize she can't run roughshod over you. You get your kids and she learns You don't tug on superman's cape, You don't spit into the wind, You don't pull the mask off that old lone ranger And you don't mess around with fdu. love that song, keep the faith.
