My kids have been great the last couple days. My D has multiple times come to me, hugged me and told me she loves me. So uplifting. Yesterday we started talking about them going to X's house, and they both got upset and asked to call X to tell her they wanted to stay with me longer. That shouldn't have hurt, but it did. I guess I hurt for X. I shouldn't, she wouldn't for me, but I guess that is part of what makes me me.
No doubt I have a better relationship with them than what I had. That is a wonderful thing.
When children get older...and become teenagers...running back and forth between mom and dads house gets real old. They will demand to be MORE at one than the others. Keep prioritizing your kids over everything else and your wife is certainly going to keep prioritizing her "happiness" over everyone else and you are sure to be that go to parent.
Hopefully you reside in their school district and there "best friends" end up living more conveniently near you. As friends become their priority, being at the parent's home with better access to such friends also plays a part in the eventual demand they make to spend more time at one parent's home than the other. If you aren't in this position home wise now....look to rectify that in the coming years.
Your ex-wife is selfish. I still think she's wayward. Your kids need protecting from her selfishness particularly when they enter and endure the difficult teenage years. If you have to take it legal....go for primary custody in the courts once the kids are old enough but chances are the kids will request it and your wife won't care as long as the paperwork doesn't say it and she can save face with friends and family that you two are 50/50.
Take care you river rat.
The internet is 90% complaining and entitlement and I hate it because I deserve better!
