HeavyD, my job (and my brower's occasional difficulty with this site) has had me behind on everyone's situations, including yours. This thread resonated with me, especially the "let's be friends" part. The best thing I did was give that firm speech to my WW last week about how friends don't treat each other the way she is treating me, then seeing her face crumple into a mess of guilt and angst. What she doesn't know is that I will always be her friend, even if that friendship can only reach her through prayers from afar.
I know this doesn't help you, but seeing you a good nine months ahead of me in this journey helps me think about where my footsteps ought to take me. Perhaps you can take some comfort in knowing that you are being a great help to me in all this, whether you are being strong or feeling completely lost. I see the tough road ahead, and I truly admire your continued decision to stand.
The birthday party today will be a challenge, but one I know you can meet with compassion, courage, grace, and appropriate detachment. You really are doing better than you give yourself credit for. Sending prayers and good thoughts your way today, and happy birthday to your boy!
Me: 46 Her: 41 M: 5.5 yrs / S: 20, 18 3/26 W and I meet OW BD: 5/2/2015, she takes off ring W goes to stay with OW 6/26 NC: 9/5 Both moved out: 10/16 I take off my ring and feel... healed: 10/19
