How can a W of 16 years just stop caring. I don't get it. I never thought this would happen and I thought if it did it wouldn't bother me so bad. GOD I was wrong. This is by far the worst feeling ever. I would rather be hit by a truck.
It's very hard to wrap your mind around it, because it seems so sudden to you. I think what you have to realize is that your W has most likely been detaching for years. There were probably signs along the way that you missed, like most of us. But it wasn't like she flipped a switch from one day to the next and decided she didn't love you. She's been thinking about this for a LONG time. But, like most of us here, you probably had no idea it was near as bad as what she thought. So for you, it's all fresh. You're likely 2 years or more behind your W in going through these emotions.
There isn't any quick or easy cure for the hurt. Everyone on this board has been through it or is still going through it. All I can tell you is that, if you take the right steps, try to work on detachment, and focus on yourself, that with time, it does start to get better. I think it probably is harder and takes a lot longer if your still live together. My W moved out 5 months ago, and I still struggle, but nowhere near as bad as the first few weeks. Not sure if you are a spiritual man, but I have found that praying and reading the bible really helps me, as well as talking to friends and family. Hang in there. It's a long, difficult road but you will make it through.
Me 47 W 42 T 24 yrs M 18 yrs W living with OM BD1: 3/7/2015 (A with OM#1) BD2: 4/11/2015 (A with OM#2, W moves out) WW filed for D, papers received 9/18/2015. Meeting to determine child custody 9/29/2015.
