I do get this. Knowledge is power. So it helps to know.
But at the same time, does it REALLY matter if there's an OM? For some people that's kind of a point of no return. If it's not for you, then I'm not sure it matters either way.
Right, it makes no difference, or very little, in how you react. With an OM in the picture, then it may be more of a WW than a WAW, but they are basically handled the same. More boundary setting with a WW, as per Sandi's excellent advice. If it's a deal breaker, then you would definitely wanna find out. Personally, I think it's hard to know IF it's a deal breaker until you know for sure. I can't remember how many times I said that if I ever caught my W cheating, that was it, no turning back. Yet, here I am, having confirmed at least 3 OM in the past 5 years, and thinking that I might still be open to R. It's tough to know how you will react in these crazy situations until you're actually faced with it.
Me 47 W 42 T 24 yrs M 18 yrs W living with OM BD1: 3/7/2015 (A with OM#1) BD2: 4/11/2015 (A with OM#2, W moves out) WW filed for D, papers received 9/18/2015. Meeting to determine child custody 9/29/2015.
