I'm sure your coach knows best, but I would work on the basis of reciprocate but not initiate. If your H doesn't respond to your 'arrival' message, maybe leave it a while and just enjoy settling in.
With my H there's very little contact, but I tend to initiate a little something every month or so if I haven't heard from him.
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
