Hanging in there

[asitis]

On your S. Consider some therapy with someone who specializes in adolescents. This is traumatic for him, and he could do with some extra help from someone not directly involved in the upheaval of his family life.

Other than that, play with him. Can you figure out a way to be playful with him. You'll find that even at his age, he will start to feel more secure and open up and work through his problems more when he feels that kind of loving bond that comes through play.

And, it's time to start a new thread.

Hang in there. You aren't just faking it. It just is really tough, and your H is really making life miserable for a lot of people - himself included.