Thank you Asitis. H has always complained that I don't show any interest in his work. Always. TBH, I am not interested in his work. Add to that, he changes jobs every 2 years or so, he does a lot of project management and analytical stuff, so its pretty dry. But he has always said that he wanted me to take an interest in his work. I think I can honestly muster enough genuine interest to ask a few questions and get a "snapshot" of what he is doing at work. I do think more than that will really be insincere.
He has also always asked me to sit quietly with him while doing our own things. I never "got it" either. But this is not a new request.
What do other couples do? Are they interested in each other's jobs? When I was working pre-kids I don't really remember H taking much of an interest in my job, but it wasn't an issue for me.
He did text tonight, said he had a good day out fishing and "Hope you are having a good day." I responded, "glad to hear you had a good trip. Tell A and B I said hello" (mutual friends) and that is all.
Thank you for your kind words of support. I feel like I am doing well overall, or "faking" doing well most of the time, but I lose perspective and feel like I am failing because those are the moments H focuses on. And I am still just so sad a lot of the time. Not depressed and crying, but just sad. This is so hard.
And my son is not doing well, he just cries all the time. He interprets EVERY thing as an insult and I am wondering if he is taking after my H with extreme hypersensitivity. Either that or I really am the biggest jerk and I just insult people carelessly with my every word. I *know* it isn't me, but this is so hard.
